For the benefit of a beloved brother-in-Christ, I would like
to make available the following discussion into the area of an elder’s
qualification concerning his children.
Should the elder’s children be professing believers of the
Christian faith? This is the million-dollar question that has to be answered
exegetically. Let me begin by putting the two parallel passages concerning this
matter from the two pastoral epistles (PE) together in an accessible manner.
1 Timothy 3:4-5
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Titus 1:6
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He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping
his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage
his own household, how will he care for God’s church? (ESV)
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if anyone is above reproach, the husband of one wife, and his
children are believers and not open to the charge of debauchery or
insubordination. (ESV)
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τέκνα ἔχοντα ἐν ὑποταγῇ, μετὰ πάσης σεμνότητος – “keeping his
children under control, with all dignity”
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τέκνα ἔχων πιστά – “having faithful/believing
children”
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George Knight writes in his NIGNT commentary on the Pastoral
Epistles, “Should πιστά in this clause be understood as “faithful” or as
“believing”? The range of usage shows that either meaning is a possibility: The
word can clearly mean “faithful,” as it does several times in the PE, including
once with a noun, as here (2 Tim. 2:2: πιστοὶ ἀνθρώποι). It can also mean
“believing” and does on several occasions in the PE, again including once with
a noun (1 Tim. 6:2: πιστοὶ … δεσπόται). The context here and the parallel in 1
Tim. 3:4–5, however, provide some important indicators: The qualifying
statement here, “not accused of dissipation or rebellion,” emphasizes behavior
and seems to explain what it means for τέκνα to be πιστά. Likewise 1 Tim. 3:4
speaks of the overseer “keeping his children under control with all dignity.”
In both cases the overseer is evaluated on the basis of his control of his
children and their conduct. It is likely, therefore, that τέκνα ἔχων πιστά here
is virtually equivalent to τέκνα ἔχοντα ἐν ὑποταγῇ in 1 Tim. 3:4. If that is
so, then πιστά here means “faithful” in the sense of “submissive” or
“obedient,” as a servant or steward is regarded as πιστός when he carries out
the requests of his master.” (George W. Knight, The Pastoral Epistles: A
Commentary on the Greek Text, New International Greek Testament Commentary
(Grand Rapids, MI; Carlisle, England: W.B. Eerdmans; Paternoster Press, 1992),
289–290.)
Let us think about this a little further. If we admit that
Paul requires the same standards for elders in Ephesus and Crete, then we ought
to regard the relevant passages within 1 Tim 3 and Titus 1 as referring to the
same stringent requirements of all elders. It does not make sense for Paul to
have one set of qualifications for the elders in the church of Ephesus, while
giving another standard for elders (or more specifically, the children of
elders) in the church of Crete.
That is why, where Paul does not mention "believing
(pistos)" children in 1 Tim 3:4-5, we must also suspect that “believing
children” might not be the actual rendering of τέκνα ἔχων πιστά (tekna echon pista)
in Titus 1:6. Paul required elders in Ephesus to keep “his children under
control, with all dignity,” which also means that these children ought to be
obedient, not unruly, and submissive to the father's authority, which are
behavioural requirements. Paul makes no explicit mention of this positive
demand in his letter to Titus.
Paul’s letter to Titus implicitly contains similar standards
for the elder’s children, albeit in the negative, “not accused of debauchery
or rebellion.” Since Paul demands the same standard for elders from both
churches, it must mean that, when pushed for a more precise meaning of pistos
in Titus 1:6, we should choose the meaning which is consistent with the explicit
meaning and description in 1 Tim 3:4-5. This is the analogy of Scripture in
practice. Furthermore, the clearer passages (1 Tim 3:4-5) must always interpret
the more obscure ones (where pistos in Titus 1:6 can have more than one
meaning), and not vice versa. For these reasons, the phrase in Titus 1:6 “his
children are believers” is better to be translated as “his children are
faithful.”
Alexander Strauch writes, “The Greek word for “believe” is
pistos, which can be translated either actively as “believing” (1 Tim. 6:2) or
passively as “faithful,” “trustworthy,” or “dutiful” (2 Tim. 2:2).
The contrast made is not between believing and unbelieving
children, but between obedient, respectful children and lawless, uncontrolled
children. The strong terms “dissipation or rebellion” stress the children’s
behavior, not their eternal state. A faithful child is obedient and submissive
to the father. The concept is similar to that of the “faithful servant” who is
considered to be faithful because he or she obeys the Master and does what the
Master says (Matt. 24:45–51).
The parallel passage in 1 Timothy 3:4 states that the
prospective elder must keep “his children under control with all dignity.”
Since 1 Timothy 3:4 is the clearer passage, it should be allowed to help
interpret the ambiguity of Titus 1:6. “Under control with all dignity” is
closely parallel with “having trustworthy children.” In the Titus passage,
however, the qualification is stated in a positive form—the elder must have
children who are trustworthy and dutiful.
Those who interpret this qualification to mean that an elder
must have believing, Christian children place an impossible burden upon a
father. Even the best Christian fathers cannot guarantee that their children
will believe. Salvation is a supernatural act of God. God, not good parents
(although they are certainly used of God), ultimately brings salvation (John
1:12, 13).
In striking contrast
to faithful children are those who are wild or insubordinate: “not accused of
dissipation or rebellion.” These are very strong words. “Dissipation” means
“debauchery,” “profligacy,” or “wild, disorderly living” (cf. 1 Peter 4:3, 4;
Luke 15:13). “Rebellion” means to be “disobedient,” “unruly,” or
“insubordinate.” Wild, insubordinate children are a terrible reflection on the
home, particularly on the father’s ability to guide and care for others. A man
who aspires to eldership but has profligate children is not a viable candidate
for church leadership.” (Alexander Strauch, Biblical Eldership: An Urgent Call
to Restore Biblical Church Eldership (Littleton, CO: Lewis and Roth Publishers,
1995), 229–230.)
A simple lemma search would also reveal that the word pistos
is often translated as “faithful.” The following is a sample from the ESV
translators.
Though an analogy can be drawn between the father at home
and the pastor in the church, the home is NOT the church, and the father's role
is only analogous to the elder's responsibilities in terms of headship and
leadership. The father's role is a divine appointment as part of the Creation
Ordinance in the garden of Eden. There is more to a father's role than merely
spiritual headship. 1 Cor 11:3 is clear that the husband is the head of the
wife, while Christ is his head. This means that, while the child is submissive
to the father, the child is implicitly submitting himself under the father’s
headship as appointed by Christ – and hence, submission to Christ Himself – via
the Creation Ordinance. While the father as provider provides materially to the
members of his household, the elder feeds the sheep with the Word. While the
father is the protector of his wife and children from physical threats (and
also from negative spiritual influences), the elder protects the sheep from
wolves, false prophets and false teachings. The analogy stops here.
The local church as an expression of the visible, universal
church under the New Covenant demands that her members ought to be spiritually
alive. This is also one of the reasons why the local church examines the
profession of every potential member of the church. Members of the home under
the Creation Ordinance cannot be given the same demands of spiritual life in
Christ. The home is primarily God's appointed model for human proliferation,
not the manner by which the New Covenant members congregate and worship. That
belongs to the local church.
Therefore, though analogous, the father's role is distinct
from the elder’s, and the ability to rule is shown thus as a faithful
dispensation of his role (as spiritual leader, provider, protector) in
nurturing and educating the child in His Word, while his child submits to his
leadership and shows a willingness to obey the father in his religion. I would clearly
stop short of demanding baptism and church membership of a candidate’s children
as a requirement for eldership.
The phrase “keeping his children submissive” (tekna echonta
en hypotagē) refers to “a man who is able to keep his children under control
with all dignity—to cause children to obey in a graceful manner because of
loving, pastoral parenting. Too many pastors’ kids behave like rebellious
little demons. It is not their fault. Many pastors discipline their children’s
rear ends but fail to discipline their kids’ attitudes, the real catalyst of
misbehavior. This doesn’t mean that the kids of a pastor should always be
perfect, sweet little angels, but rather that they should be under the loving
control of parents whose discipline nurtures within them a healthy fear of God.”
(Patrick, Darrin. Church Planter: The Man, the Message, the Mission (p. 54). Wheaton,
IL: Crossway, 2010.)
Perusal of the following commentaries by a church father St.
John Chrysostom, Matthew Henry, and the great Reformed Baptist theologian John
Gill, will also demonstrate that Titus 1:6 refers to behavioural qualifications
of an elder’s child, rather than salvific, spiritual requirements.
Commenting on the clause, “Having faithful children, not
accused of riot, or unruly,” Chrysostom writes, “We should observe what care he
bestows upon children. For he who cannot be the instructor of his own children,
how should he be the Teacher of others? If he cannot keep in order those whom
he has had with him from the beginning, whom he has brought up, and without?
For if the incompetency of the father had not been great, he would not have
allowed those to become bad whom from the first he had under his power. For it
is not possible, indeed it is not, that one should turn out ill who is brought
up with much care, and has received great attention. Sins are not so prevalent
by nature, as to overcome so much previous care. But if, occupied in the
pursuit of wealth, he has made his children a secondary concern, and not
bestowed much care upon them, even so he is unworthy. For if when nature
prompted, he was so void of affection or so senseless, that he thought more of
his wealth than of his children, how should he be raised to the Episcopal
throne, and so great rule? For if he was unable to restrain them it is a great
proof of his weakness; and if he was unconcerned, his want of affection is much
to be blamed. He then that neglects his own children, how shall he take care of
other men’s? And he has not only said, “not riotous,” but not even “accused of
riot.” There must not be an ill report, or such an opinion of them.” (John
Chrysostom, “Homilies of St. John Chrysostom, Archbishop of Constantinople, on
the Epistle of St. Paul the Apostle to Titus,” in Saint Chrysostom: Homilies on
Galatians, Ephesians, Philippians, Colossians, Thessalonians, Timothy, Titus,
and Philemon, ed. Philip Schaff, trans. James Tweed and Philip Schaff, vol. 13,
A Select Library of the Nicene and Post-Nicene Fathers of the Christian Church,
First Series (New York: Christian Literature Company, 1889), 524–525.)
Matthew Henry comments, “And, as to his children, having
faithful children, obedient and good, brought up in the true Christian faith,
and living according to it, at least as far as the endeavours of the parents
can avail. It is for the honour of ministers that their children be faithful
and pious, and such as become their religion. Not accused of riot, nor unruly,
not justly so accused, as having given ground and occasion for it, for
otherwise the most innocent may be falsely so charged; they must look to it therefore
that there be no colour for such censure. Children so faithful, and obedient,
and temperate, will be a good sign of faithfulness and diligence in the parent
who has so educated and instructed them; and, from his faithfulness in the
less, there may be encouragement to commit to him the greater, the rule and
government of the church of God.” (Matthew Henry, Matthew Henry’s Commentary on
the Whole Bible: Complete and Unabridged in One Volume (Peabody: Hendrickson,
1994), 2368.)
John Gill overtly exclaims that the elder’s child cannot be
expected to be an elect. He says, “having faithful children; legitimate ones,
born in lawful wedlock, in the same sense as such are called godly and holy, in
Mal. 2:15; 1 Cor. 7:14 for by faithful children cannot be meant converted ones,
or true believers in Christ; for it is not in the power of men to make their
children such; and their not being so can never be an objection to their being
elders, if otherwise qualified; at most the phrase can only intend, that they
should be brought up in the faith, in the principles, doctrines, and ways of
Christianity, or in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” (John Gill, An
Exposition of the New Testament, vol. 3, The Baptist Commentary Series (London:
Mathews and Leigh, 1809), 349.)
In conclusion, the analogy of faith also demands that we
recognise God's sovereignty in appointing whomever He wills to eternal life,
and while godly men may show fruits of his godly leadership by having his
children in subjection, we cannot make explicit what the Bible does not say -
that is, that his children be elect!
Addendum
Reformed hermeneutics distinguishes herself from the Dispensationalist's wooden literalism, the Charismatic's intentional anachronism, and the Modernist's naturalism via the usage of Analogia Scripturae and Analogia Fidei. For the benefit of those who are confused with these terminologies, the following prose might elucidate upon these terms further.
Addendum
Reformed hermeneutics distinguishes herself from the Dispensationalist's wooden literalism, the Charismatic's intentional anachronism, and the Modernist's naturalism via the usage of Analogia Scripturae and Analogia Fidei. For the benefit of those who are confused with these terminologies, the following prose might elucidate upon these terms further.
Analogy of
Scripture (Analogia Scripturae)
The Bible was written over a period of approximately 2,000
years by 40 different human authors from three continents. But as Christians,
we understand that the Bible ultimately has only one Divine Author – God
Himself. Since God is the originator of His written Word, it is to be
acknowledged that He would convey a coherent, unified message in the 66 books
of both the Old and New Testaments. What He has revealed in one portion of His
Word would agree with other portions of Holy Writ. This is because God is not a
confused, irrational God.
The “Analogy of Scripture” presumes Divine authorship. It
basically says that the portions of Scripture which appear difficult or unclear
should be understood in accord with other clearer biblical texts which deal
with the same issue or theme. This is expressed in the Second London Baptist
Confession of Faith, Chapter 1, Paragraph 9 which states that:
“The infallible rule of interpretation of Scripture is the
Scripture itself; and therefore when there is a question about the true and
full sense of any Scripture (which is not manifold, but one), it must be
searched by other places that speak more clearly.”
Therefore, the “Analogy of Scripture” guards against the
isolation of one text of Scripture from the context of the entire Bible. It
also prevents the simplistic, irresponsible use of “proof-texts” in the
derivation of doctrines. In other words, the Bible must interpret itself, and
in the event of any difficulty in understanding a particular text of Scripture,
the reader should use portions of clearer Scripture to understand the
difficult, unclear passages.
Analogy of Faith
(Analogia Fidei)
The “Analogy of Faith” is quite similar in meaning to the
“Analogy of Scripture,” but it goes a step further.
Basically, it means that a particular biblical passage which
deals with a Christian teaching must be interpreted and understood within the
larger context of the Christian faith derived from the Bible as a whole. The
“Analogy of Faith” takes for granted that there is an integrated, consistent
theological meaning within Holy Writ.
In practice, the interpreter who utilizes the “Analogy of
Faith” would first construct his understanding of a particular doctrine from
the clear and unambiguous passages of Scripture. He then uses this
understanding which he had derived from the clear portions of Scripture as a
basis for the interpretation of the unclear portions. This manner of
understanding the Bible likewise assumes a unified, coherent theme throughout
Scripture. This is because the God of Truth, the God whom we worship and adore,
is ultimately the author of His Word.